International Journal of Social Science and Economic Research
ISSN: 2455-8834
Volume: 04, Issue: 04 "April 2019"
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‘COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE AMONG INTERMARRIED
COUPLES IN NEPAL’
Bimla Kumari Gurung
ICSSR Doctoral Fellow, Department of sociology, Gurunanak Dev University,
Amritsar (Punjab), Pin code-143005, India
ABSTRACT
The present paper examine the courtship and marriage among intermarried couples in Nepal. The
study focuses on how the intimacy was developed? What were the factors that attracted toward
each other? How long courtship lasted? What types of marriage respondents had?. The study was
conducted in Kathmandu valley. The valley includes three districts that are, Kathmandu, Lalitpur
and Bhaktapur district. Information was collected from 210 women who were in intermarriage
by using snowball technique. In the study, it is found that most of the couples met each other
through common friends. 28.57 per cent of the couples’s courtship lasted for two years and
above before marriage and 54.76 per cent of the couples had marriage by elopement.
Keywords: intermarriage, courtship, couples, marriage, Nepal.
INTRODUCTION
Marriage is an important life event to the people of Nepal. It is not only a union of two
individuals but of two families, their caste, religion and culture. Nepal is a country with multi-
ethnic groups, religions, castes and culture; therefore, different forms of marriages are in
practiced. The different forms of marriages are arranged marriage, preferred marriage, elopement
marriage, capture marriage, forced marriage, exchange marriage etc (Bista 1965; Majupurias
2009; Subedi 2010). Arranged marriage is the most common form of marriage where parents
have different consideration in selecting mates for their children (Ahuja 1993). Mate selection is
an important process, but societies around the world differ considerably in how they negotiate
the marriage. Most of the Asian countries including Nepal do not have the open courtship
systems that are common in western countries. Instead many factors such as caste, religion,
income, values promote traditional mate selections (Benokraitis 2014). Therefore, young men
and women have very little freedom in selecting partners for them and expected to marry within
their own castes and religions. Moreover, in Nepali societies endogamy is the common practice