COLD therapy- traumatizes the narc, to the point that he decompensates, loses his/her defenses, once defenses are gone the narc is open to attack via therapeutic intervention; this is the essence, re-traumatizes in order to remove the defenses, destroy the false self, and open the patient up to help via a treatment intervention. DAY 1 To understand the narcissist, you have to look at the people around them Dark triad 1) Sub- clinical narcissist 2) Sub-clinical psychopathy 3) Machiavellianism- manipulative people Dark tetrad, everything dark triad plus sadism Dark pentagram, everything dark tetrad plus dysregulation like borderline Orsen wells- icon, famous movie director, Citizen Kane, hiking in Germany, comes across Adolf Hitler, 1978 interview “this guy had no personality whatsoever, I think there was nothing and nobody there” narcissism is about void, Otto Kernberg called it emptiness Narcissist is not a presence, it’s an absence- there is nothing to capture = How do you describe nothing, we have words to describe something. We don’t have language for nothing. This absence, artificial intelligence, narcissist is not fully human. In 1990’s new language was created by Sam Vaknin, how do you communicate that I’m not, rather than I am, what I’m not rather than what I am. Ambient artificial intelligence, like an algorithm, set of symbols Cold therapy- departure from everything we know about therapy, no way to access narcissist, we need to depart from existence The narcissistic abuse experience. The disability consists of narcissist disabling you, he is a disabling agent. The narcissist is like a computer virus, the code’s main