Grief-Stricken in a Crowd:
The Language of Bereavement and Distress in Social Media
Jed R. Brubaker
1
, Funda Kivran-Swaine
2
, Lee Taber
1
, and Gillian R. Hayes
1
1
School of Information and Computer Sciences
University of California, Irvine
Irvine, CA, USA
{jed.brubaker, ltaber, hayesg}@uci.edu
2
School of Communication and Information
Rutgers University
New Brunswick, NJ, USA
funda@rutgers.edu
Abstract
People turn to social media to express their emotions
surrounding major life events. Death of a loved one is one
scenario in which people share their feelings in the semi-
public space of social networking sites. In this paper, we
present the results of a two-part investigation of grief and
distress in the context of messages posted to the profiles of
deceased MySpace users. We present coding system for
identifying emotion distressed content, followed by a
detailed analysis of language use that lays a foundation for
natural language processing (NLP) tasks, such as automatic
detection of bereavement-related distress. Our findings
suggest that in addition to words bearing positive or
negative sentiment, linguistic style can be an indicator of
messages that demonstrate distress in the space of post-
mortem social media content. These results contribute to
research in computational linguistics by identifying
linguistic features that can be used for automatic
classification as well as to research on death and
bereavement by enumerating attributes of distressed self-
expression in a post-mortem context.
Introduction
Social media-based interactions are an increasingly
important to many people’s social lives. Life’s significant
events, from birthdays to marriage proposals, are now
experienced in part via social network sites (SNS). This
remains true of when those lives come to an end. Grieving
a loved one’s death—once limited to the physical world—
now extends to the social networking profiles of the
deceased. Following a user’s death, friends often express
their shock and grief on the deceased’s profile page
(Brubaker & Vertesi 2010; Getty et al. 2011). Over time,
survivors continue to return to social media and keep those
who have passed close through continued updates on
events and feelings that would have been shared with the
deceased were they alive (Brubaker & Hayes 2011).
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Analyzing content from sites such as MySpace provides
insight into the role that social media plays in
contemporary experiences of death, as well as the impact
of death on these digital spaces. So far, much of the
previous work in the area of post-mortem interactions in
social media has been qualitative in approach, employing
content and thematic analyses to understand grieving
practices. However, quantitative analyses of the content
and linguistic style of post-mortem comments are crucial in
understanding practices during bereavement. Moreover,
user-generated content posted via social media provides a
unique opportunity to observe grieving practices in a
naturalistic setting. Messages in SNS are in their intended
social environments as opposed to interview or lab
settings, where expressions of grief have historically been
studied.
This work focuses on extreme expressions of grief and
mourning in SNS following the death of a friend or loved
one. In the first part of this paper we present a codebook
for identifying distressed comments based on a thorough
review of the literature on grieving practices and
bereavement. This coding scheme identifies comments
exhibiting emotional distress as a potential indicator of
unhealthy mourning and/or the need for additional support.
Based on comments coded through this scheme, in the
second part of this paper we present the results of a
detailed linguistic analysis of comments posted to deceased
MySpace profiles in order build explanatory models based
on linguistic features that contrast comments exhibiting
emotional distress with those that display more
conventional funerary language. To this end, we examined
2213 post-mortem comments posted to the profiles of 652
MySpace users following their deaths.
The detailed linguistic analysis of distressed comments
presented here expands our current knowledge around the
use of language in online grieving. Existing research in this
space has predominantly focused on the benefits of such
spaces that enable individuals to express their grief. A
review of content, however, reveals that some of the