The International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality, First Edition. Edited by Patricia Whelehan and Anne Bolin.
© 2015 John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Published 2015 by John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Virginity and virginity
pledges
LAURA M. CARPENTER AND HEATHER
HENSMAN KETTREY
Vanderbilt University, Nashville, TN, United States
The term virginity refers to the state of having
never had sex, and virgin to a person in that state.
When a virgin has sex for the first time, she or he
is typically said to have lost her or his virginity.
People disagree about what sorts of sexual
acts, with what sorts of partners, result in virgin-
ity loss. Before the Enlightenment, and again
during the Victorian period, spiritual and moral
definitions of virginity prevailed. For example,
some experts contended that a woman could
lose her virtue (seen as synonymous with virgin-
ity) by meeting a man unchaperoned. Around
1900, definitions began to focus on specific
physical acts, the traditional—and most
common—being a person’s first experience of
vaginal–penile sex.
Many individuals categorize partnered sexual
activities such as oral and anal intercourse as
forms of foreplay which do not result in virginity
loss. Others posit that one can lose virginity
through oral or anal intercourse. The term techni-
cal virginity emerged in the 1920s, referring to the
practice of engaging in “everything but” those
activities believed to result in virginity loss. How
people categorize these practices often depends
on sexual orientation. Historically, most individ-
uals believed that only heterosexual activity could
terminate virginity. Yet the increasing visibility
and acceptance of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and
queer (LGBQ) individuals has propagated the
belief in virginity loss with same‐sex partners.
Heterosexual women and men tend to claim that
heterosexuals can lose their virginity only via
vaginal intercourse, whereas LGBQ people can
also lose their virginity through oral or anal sex.
LGBQ individuals tend to argue that anyone can
lose their virginity through whichever of those
acts they engage in first.
Debates about whether sexual assault can result
in virginity loss highlight an ongoing tension
between physiological and moral/emotional defini-
tions of virginity. Drawing on feminist analyses of
rape as a form of violence, some argue that virginity
cannot be lost without consent. Another debate
concerns whether sexually experienced individuals
can regain their virginity. Although most people
maintain that virginity can be lost only once, claims
that individuals can, after a period of deliberate
abstinence, become a secondary or “born‐again”
virgin have proliferated since the late 1980s,
especially in conservative Christian circles.
Beliefs about the hymen—the protective
membrane over the cervix—also reflect this physio-
logical/moral tension. Many believe (incorrectly)
that a female’s hymen can only be broken through
vaginal intercourse. Consequently, lack of blood
at first sex is often taken to signify nonvirginity.
In medieval Europe, methods to “fake” hymeneal
blood abounded (e.g., inserting an ampule of
blood in the vagina). In contemporary societies
where premarital virginity is highly valued, such
as parts of the Middle East and Latin America,
hymen reconstruction surgery is growing in pop-
ularity. In industrialized countries, such as Japan
and the United States, “re‐virgination” surgeries
have increased for other reasons. Some media
accounts depict sexually experienced women
undergoing such operations as a special gift for
their male partners.
Virginity has been valued since antiquity for
social as well as spiritual reasons. Early Jews,
Greeks, and Romans believed that male and
female virgins possessed special powers. Some
medieval Europeans thought that sex with a vir-
gin could cure sexually transmitted infections
(STIs), a belief that persists in parts of the world
today. Early Christians advocated virginity as a
means of avoiding sin. After the Protestant
Reformation, lifelong virginity lost its appeal for
many, but virginity until marriage remained a
widespread ideal, especially for women. These
historical grounds for valuing virginity persist in
many conservative societies. Where women’s vir-
ginity is seen as signifying family honor, as in