Presented on 5 Th International Conference of The International Association of Muslim Psychologist —Child Psychology an Islamic & Cultural Perspective at 5-6 November 2016 University Club Universitas Gadjah Mada Yogyakarta Indonesia 1 Parenting of Kyai Java; Phenomenological Study of Success Kyai Java’s Children Wahyudi Setiawan Yogyakarta Muhammadiyah University wahyudisetiawan089@gmail.com Katni Ponorogo Muhammadiyah University katni@umpo.ac.id Abstract Parenting in the family is an important part of the process to make the useful life. In every region, every community has the means, methods, and each culture to educate their children to become human ideal and superior. Kyai Java has a distinctive way to educate their children in order to become a superior human being, personality, and quality and benefit to the family, the nation, and the state based on Kyai’s education. This study aims to determine the methods used in Javanese Kyai families in educating their children to reach their success. By descriptive phenomenological approach of this research is expected to be able to present the authentic objective data. The results of this research that found their parenting methods applied Kyai to his children. Apply the method of compassion, examples, appreciation and punishment, and blessing. The methods delivering the children of Javanese Kyai reaches the success in their life. For the example, be Qur'an memorized, businessmen, preachers, and get scholarships; all have a good personality and character as children of Kyai Zarkasyi Gontor. Keyword: Education, Kyai Java, Success. Parenting Kyai Java In each family each has a model or nurturing behavior towards his children, and all of them aimed so that their children to be the best match expectations of parents. In this case a Kyai which is a socio- religious title is given to one who has a high religious knowledge dibading with certain Java community groups become hero or a role model in all respects (Fadhilah, 2011). In a society Kyai has multi existence (Arina, 2012; Makmur, 2012; Ubab, 2012) as well as a single authority (Ismail, 2014) as the number one social order. Kyai has many advantages compared with members of the public at large, ranging from the independence of science, economics, psychology, and management of mature personality. For example nurturing behavior towards their children who become exemplary mostly Java community groups. Kyai emotional maturity in all aspects (Suciati, 2014) is the main asset in educating their children. There are a few things done by a Javanese Kyai in educating their children as some explanation follows below: Exemplary It's first and foremost in the family culture in educating family Kyai provides exemplary. Kyai becomes a model of each of his children. Thus the most appropriate educational model provides exemplary (Weber, n.d.) to the children. Exemplary be able to touch the inner and outer aspects of a child, both cognitively and emotionally. Each child will learn from seeing, hearing, and doing everything that the environment in which he is doing. An environment is a place where every human being to learn many