Interpreting Fatherhood After Donation: Social Representations and
Identity Resonances Among Men Having Assisted a Lesbian Couple in
Becoming Parents
Isabel Côté
University of Québec in Outaouais
Kévin Lavoie
Laval University
Francine de Montigny
University of Québec in Outaouais
This article documents the social representations of the paternity of men involved in the parental project
of lesbian couples as known sperm donors, that is, as part of an agreement established outside the
medically assisted reproduction system. Eleven Quebec donors were interviewed to gather their views on
their role with children conceived as a result of their donation. The results show that their representations
are structured around a presence/absence dualism that reflects their experiences with their own fathers,
while also following the agreement initially established with the mothers. Child care and daily presence
are more associated with a paternal identity, whereas the donor or genitor identity refers to the genetic
contribution transmitted through the donation. Between these two poles, some men must contend with
significant ambiguity, given not only the absence of reference points or models but also the relational
aspect of this practice of donor-assisted reproduction.
Public Significance Statement
This study informs the public that the emergence of a paternal identity is a complex phenomenon for
known sperm donors, dependent on the representations and interrelationships among the donor,
lesbian mothers, family and friends as well the social universe in which they live.
Keywords: donor insemination, fatherhood, social representation, identity, Quebec
Lesbian-parent families have been drawing the attention of
researchers for the past 40 years (Golombok, 2015). Although
early studies examined the impact of mothers’ sexual orientation
on their children’s development, later research evolved toward
seeking a better understanding of the dynamics of same-sex fam-
ilies founded with the help of a third party (Gross, 2015). An
important part of this research focused on lesbian mothers’ moti-
vations for carrying out their parental project through artificial
insemination in a fertility clinic or in a private setting with the help
of a “known donor” (Goldberg & Allen, 2009; Nordqvist, 2011).
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We know that lesbian mothers who seek assistance from a known
donor have given thought, from the outset, to fatherhood and what
they want in terms of commitment from the man involved (Don-
ovan, 2000; Svab, 2007; Touroni & Coyle, 2002). His role with
respect to the child can range from planned coparenting to a more
or less sustained presence within the family environment, or to
strict disclosure of identity without contact with the child (Côté,
2014).
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In some cases, he will be identified as the “father” and the
1
The term “known donor” means that the man acts as a third-party
reproductive agent for the parental project of others outside the medical
reproductive assistance system (Kelly, 2010). Whether a friend or family
member solicited for donation or a stranger contacted through a website,
known donors are different from anonymous donors who have offered their
gametes to a sperm bank, even if some of the latter accept that information
about them may eventually be accessible to the children born from their
donations.
2
Unlike post-break-up coparenting following a parental separation,
planned coparenting occurs when people who do not share a conjugal
relationship decide to pool their desire for a child and start a family. For
example, a lesbian couple and their gay friend become parents of a child for
whom they will have shared custody. If three or more people are involved
in the coparenting project, only two of them will be legally recognized as
parents, in accordance with the current state of the law in the province of
Québec (Leckey, 2014).
This article was published Online First October 3, 2019.
Isabel Côté, Department of Social Work, University of Québec in
Outaouais; Kévin Lavoie, School of Social Work and Criminology, Laval
University; Francine de Montigny, Department of Nursing, University of
Québec in Outaouais.
This research project was supported by grants from the Fonds de
recherche du Québec – Société et culture and the Social Sciences and
Humanities Research Council awarded to Isabel Côté.
Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to Isabel
Côté, Department of Social Work, University of Québec in Outaouais, 283,
Boulevard Alexandre Taché, Succursale Hull, pièce C-2322, Gatineau,
Québec J8X 3X7, Canada. E-mail: isabel.cote@uqo.ca
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