Psychoanalytic Inquiry, 32:115–135, 2012 Copyright © Melvin Bornstein, Joseph Lichtenberg, Donald Silver ISSN: 0735-1690 print/1940-9133 online DOI: 10.1080/07351690.2011.592740 So That Our Dreams Will Not Escape Us: Learning to Think Together in Time of War Martha Bragin Armed conflict creates situations that tear at the fabric of life, affecting both emotional and material circumstances. Far from being confined to one brief, traumatic moment, most armed conflicts today go on for an indeterminate number of years. Yet, children are engaged in a dynamic process of devel- opment. That process doesn’t hold still and wait for better times. The challenge to all concerned with child development is to find ways to assist communities and families to enable their children to grow up properly in time of war. When children are asked to name their own priorities, attending school is at the top of the list. Children associate school success with a hopeful future. But when they have been exposed to the most extreme forms of violence, they often find that the very same mental mechanisms that have allowed them to endure prevent them from using what they have experienced, making learning impossible. Further, their teachers have also been exposed to the horrors of war. Extremely violent experiences are remembered differently, held in the mind without symbolic rep- resentation and are not held to the internal scrutiny of reflective functioning. Education programs that attempt to support mentalization may call up unexpected levels of resistance as the young minds unconsciously struggle to keep terrifying meanings away. However, by combining traditional healing with reparative activity, the Ministry of Education and Sports (MOES) of Uganda was able to create conditions for Acholi children abducted as child sol- diers, even those who had seen parents and siblings killed before their eyes, to be able to tolerate the possibility of thinking. By addressing this fear first, the MOES has been able to embed relational principles into the fabric of its program so that in the midst of war, teachers can teach, children can learn, and adolescents can have hope that their dreams will not escape them. In wars, we suffer from and witness some of the worst forms of violence committed against us and the people we love. Some of us have been born in the midst of this violence. It has become a way of life. We believe that education is essential to our future and that we have a right to dream of a better life. (However) even if we go (to school) we have a hard time concentrating because we keep thinking about what happened to us and our relatives. But when we lose months or years of school because of war, we worry that our dreams will escape us. When we should be learning, we are growing up in ignorance. As a result of this ignorance comes Martha Bragin, Ph.D., is Associate Professor at the Hunter College School of Social Work, and the Graduate Center of the City University of New York. She is a member of the Interagency Standing Committee (IASC) reference group on mental health and psychosocial support in emergency settings. She is a member of the working group on the psychic effects of social exclusion of the International Psychoanalytic Association and a candidate at Institute for Psychoanalytic Training and Research (IPTAR). Downloaded by [Martha Bragin] at 13:30 12 March 2012