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Predicting Preferences for Dating Partners
From Past Experiences of Psychological
Abuse: Identifying the Psychological
Ingredients of Situations
Vivian Zayas
Cornell University
Yuichi Shoda
University of Washington
T
he belief that some people recreate past negative
relationship dynamics through the choices they
make in dating partners is widespread in today’s popu-
lar culture as well as among professionals and acade-
mics (Kirkwood, 1993). Many professionals in the field
of domestic violence explicitly advise women who have
been the victims of abuse to “break the cycle” of abuse
by changing their preferences in dating partners.
What empirical evidence is there to support this belief?
Surprisingly, very little. Moreover, little or no research
has focused on the partner preferences of men who are
abusive in intimate relationships. The lack of empirical
research on these issues may be due to the ethical and
practical limitations of assessing partner preference.
Authors’ Note: This study was supported in part by the University
of Washington Royalty Research Fund (Grant MH39349 from the
National Institute of Mental Health) and an Individual National
Research Service Award from the National Institute of Mental Health.
We are grateful to Walter Mischel, Ozlem Ayduk, Kathryn De Leeuw,
Niall Bolger, Kathleen Cook, Scott Counts, Kristen Lindgren, Jason
Plaks, Miriam Rosenbaum, and Naomi Zavislak for their comments
on earlier drafts and to Michael Berg, Xavier Esters, Matt Pinheiro,
and Melissa Wagner. Parts of this research were presented at the
annual meeting of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in
2001. Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to
Vivian Zayas, Department of Psychology, 211 Uris Hall, Cornell
University, Ithaca, NY 14853; e-mail: vaza@u.washington.edu.
PSPB, Vol. 33 No. 1, January 2007 123-138
DOI: 10.1177/0146167206293493
© 2007 by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, Inc.
Are women who have been the victim of psychological
abuse in the past more likely to prefer an abusive dating
partner in the future? Are men who have been the per-
petrator of abuse more likely to prefer a dating partner
with high attachment anxiety, a characteristic associated
with victims of abuse? The present research used a highly
repeated, within-subject, multilevel approach to identify
the characteristics of potential dating partners that con-
stitute salient psychological ingredients of situations
influencing partner preference. Study 1 found that college-
age women who reported more instances of receiving
psychological abuse, compared to women who did not,
showed a stronger preference for male dating partners
who possessed characteristics associated with an abusive
personality (e.g., possessiveness). Study 2 found that col-
lege-age men who reported more instances of inflicting
psychological abuse, compared to men who did not,
showed a stronger preference for female dating partners
characterized by high attachment anxiety.
Keywords: psychological abuse; abusive relationships; part-
ner preference; human mate selection; romantic
relationship; adult attachment
If you’ve frequently become involved with abusive men,
it’s either because you tend to find them in more or less
the same places, something about them attracts you, or
something about you attracts them.
—NiCarthy (1986), founder and director of the
Abused Women’s Network in Seattle (p. 223)