© Kamla-Raj 2008 J. Hum. Ecol., 24(1): 51-57 (2008)
Parenting and Responsibility:
Holding Parents Accountable for Children’s Antisocial Practices
E. A. Uwe, P. N. Asuquo and E. E. Ekuri
Department of Educational Foundations, University of Calabar, Calabar, Nigeria
E-mail: ekauwe2002@yahoo.com
KEYWORDS Parents. Parenting and Responsibility. Anti-Social Practices
ABSTRACT Proper nurturing of children is the primary responsibility of parents. Parents have inescapable
responsibilities when bringing up their children. These responsibilities are automatically conferred on both parents
of the child right from the child’s birth. They are expected to guide and modify the behaviour of their child to
conform with the acceptable behaviours in the society as well as participate in activities aimed at preventing crime
or disorder being committed by their children. Ironically, some parents have failed in these roles and functions.
They adopt too much permissive and laissez-faire parenting styles that inadvertently make their children vulnerable
to anti-social behaviours. This paper focuses on parents as the catalysts for children’s behaviour. The rationale
for children’s anti-social behaviours are highlighted as well as some of the corrupt behaviours parents exhibit. The
root causes of these behaviours are brought to the limelight and suggestions proffered for improving the task of
parenting.
INTRODUCTION
Youths are our expected future leaders. In a
society where these would be future leaders are
engaged in crimes, violence, and other delinquent
and corrupt behaviours, there can never be
peace, progress and sustainable development.
Peace is an important phenomenon, a condition
the nation, the world and every individual need.
In the absence of peace there is the possibility
of instability, insecurity, burglary, thugery,
assault, rape, street ganging, drug peddling and
abuse, and other vices.
In our contemporary Nigerian setting, the
authors observed that a lot of people exhibit
dishonest behaviours without any fear of
apprehension. Some of these behaviours include
taking part in bank fraud, taking loans from banks
without adequate collateral, demanding bribe
before appointment is offered to prospective
applicants, money laundering, involvement in
massif scale theft popularly known as ‘419’ or
Advanced Fee Fraud and getting bribe and
setting culprits free from prison custody.
In the urban areas, the streets and residences
are no longer save, no matter how well fortified
they may be. Streets-smart-boys, popularly
known as “Area-boys” are found everywhere
roaming the streets, harassing and extorting
money from innocent people. The youths are
involved in cultism, armed robbery, examination
malpractices, assaults, rape, violence, substance
abuse, alcoholism, certificate racketing and
vandalism, to mention but a few. Sadly enough,
children manifest some of these antisocial
behaviours before they even start school.
These corrupt practices have dominated the
social landscape of the nation for decades. They
have been so prevalent in both low and high
places that it has necessitated the establishment
of some structures by the Federal Government,
such as, the Tribunal for Corrupt Practices (TCP),
Code of Conduct Bureau (CCB). Nigerian Drug
Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA), Anti-Trade
Malpractice Commission (AMC), Economic and
Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), Inde-
pendent Corrupt Practice Commission (ICPC) and
others to check such negative behaviours.
This prevailing atmosphere has given rise to
some pondering questions as to what could have
been the possible root causes of children, youths
and even adults involvement in antisocial
behaviours. Could parents, who are expected to
be the custodians of appropriate behaviour in
children be held accountable for such behaviours
as a result of their laxity and failure in carrying
out their parental responsibilities. Do they in one
way or the other contribute to their children’s
involvement in anti-social practices.
Parenting in the Nigerian context entails the
nurturing relationship between the parents (or
parent in the case of single parents) and the child.
In this relationship the parents have the
responsibility and obligation to meet the needs